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The Healing Woman: Integrative Paths to Wellness

My Story and the Fight Against Devaluation

My Journey with Anger: Fighting Against a Lifetime of Devaluation

Introduction

«Anger has been a constant companion in my life. For as long as I can remember, I’ve carried it with me—a fire that burned brighter with every instance of feeling devalued as a woman. It came from the verbal abuse, the dismissive attitudes, the feeling of being seen as ‘less than’ simply because I was a woman.»

«At first, my anger was loud—fueled by a need to fight back, to stand up for myself, to prove my worth. But over time, I stopped fighting. I thought if I stayed quiet, reflected more, and tried to justify the behaviors of the men who hurt me, I could make peace with it. ‘Maybe they didn’t mean it that way,’ I’d tell myself. ‘Maybe I should just let it go.’ But the truth is, silence doesn’t solve the problem. Reflection without action doesn’t heal the wounds.»

Anger has been a constant presence in my life, born from the feeling of being devalued as a woman—facing verbal abuse, dismissive attitudes, and the pressure to prove my worth in a world shaped by male dominance. At first, my anger was explosive, a fight against the pain, but over time, I silenced it, trying to reflect and justify the behavior of others, hoping it would bring peace. It didn’t. As I’ve explored my anger, I’ve realized it’s not just mine—it’s part of a generational pattern passed down by women who had to be fiercely strong to survive. Our mothers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers endured abuse and oppression, learning to prioritize strength over softness and passing down both their resilience and their wounds. This survival strength, while a gift, has often come at the cost of losing touch with our feminine energy—the part of us that longs for rest, connection, and nurturing. Healing requires breaking these cycles, honoring the strength of our ancestors while reconnecting with the fullness of ourselves. By acknowledging our anger, setting boundaries, and reclaiming the softer, intuitive parts of who we are, we can transform our pain into empowerment and create a new legacy for future generations of women.

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